Appears like your man is not on the group w/r/t his intercourse dreams. Which is no bueno for the reasons that i suppose Dan (i did not read their reply yet) stated.
Regarding the concern “we don’t understand why the man couldn’t get hard” – nerves would be the boner killer that is biggest of most. Perhaps the nerves from a unknown girl drawing your cock is sufficient.
Thus I’m unsure exactly exactly what the 3rd did to justify being named an asshole.